Subscribe You probably don’t think twice about the way you masturbate: You find a style that feels good for you, and then it’s ...
You probably don’t think twice about the way you masturbate: You find a style that feels good for you, and then it’s time to have some fun.
But your favorite technique may become problematic when someone else joins the party.
There’s a fancy name for this phenomenon: idiosyncratic masturbation.
If you’re used to masturbating a certain way, you might require firmer manual or oral stimulation—or faster penile stimulation—than your partner’s mouth or vagina can provide, Vencill says.
The problem is many guys with an idiosyncratic style of masturbating experience delayed ejaculation when having sex with a partner, says Tobias Köhler, M.D., an associate urology professor at Southern Illinois University School of Medicine.
It could take you more than 20 minutes to ejaculate or orgasm during penetration, says Dr. Köhler. This can make you feel inadequate, depressed, and anxious about finishing, he says.
And when you’re stressed during sex, your body produces more of the hormone adrenaline, which actually can hinder your erection and impede ejaculation.
If you have a unique masturbation style and you know it doesn’t quite work during sex, take a break from both, says Vencill.
But that’s only part of the solution. You also need to talk to your partner about your masturbation style, Vencill says.
Play professor: Teach her how you masturbate, so she can incorporate certain grips, styles, or speeds into your next sex session.
“There’s this cultural precedent that people must have penile-vaginal sex—that it’s the best sex,” says Vencill. “But a lot of times, part of the process is helping couples find other ways to reach pleasure.”
Source: http://www.menshealth.com/
