Part 1 can be found here "He bent me over the sink and pulled up my skirt." I was washing the dishes after a romantic ...
Part 1 can be found here
"He bent me over the sink and pulled up my skirt."
I was washing the dishes after a romantic dinner but really hoping he'd interrupt. I was wearing my sexy best—thigh-highs and a short skirt—and was horny as hell. When he came into the kitchen and slipped his arms around my waist, I was up to my elbows in suds. He held me tight and kissed the back of my neck. I tried to turn around, but he wouldn't let me. Instead, he bent me over the sink and pulled up my skirt. I gave him permission. I wanted him to control me, and that's what made everything so incredibly sexy.
—REBECCA, 38
—REBECCA, 38
WHY IT WORKED
This is really about helping her feel safe enough to let herself go and live in the moment, says Herbenick. When you trust each other, she knows you want to make the experience as much about her pleasure as yours.
This is really about helping her feel safe enough to let herself go and live in the moment, says Herbenick. When you trust each other, she knows you want to make the experience as much about her pleasure as yours.
DO IT
Act on her signals—like when she's wearing especially sexy attire, Herbenick says. In a close relationship, you can be impulsive about taking control and seeing how it feels—if she's into it. Afterward, talk about what she liked, didn't like, or might change.
Act on her signals—like when she's wearing especially sexy attire, Herbenick says. In a close relationship, you can be impulsive about taking control and seeing how it feels—if she's into it. Afterward, talk about what she liked, didn't like, or might change.
"It was incredibly sensual. We'd never felt closer."
It was around 4 a.m., and my husband and I were standing in the bedroom of a secluded cabin in California redwood country. We'd been married for only a couple of hours and, to be honest, neither of us had planned on having sex that night. Our friends had warned us, saying we'd be too tired and drunk. And they weren't wrong. I was fully prepared to just fall asleep. But then he started helping me off with my dress. It was complicated—all the hooks and buttons and zippers. It wasn't a striptease. He was careful and gentle, and he kept stopping to kiss me. I was just so happy to be undressing in front of my husband. And it felt different than all the other times I'd been naked in front of him. Usually when we have sex, it's light and playful. We crack a lot of jokes. But this was slow and serious, and when we looked at each other and touched each other, I felt this heightened sense of connection. It was incredibly sensual. Eventually we ended up on the bed, and the whole time, I remember thinking, I get to have you like this for the rest of my life.
—LIZ, 34
—LIZ, 34
WHY IT WORKED
Herbenick studied thousands of couples and found emotional intimacy to be one of the strongest predictors of sexual pleasure and orgasm. "In some cases, emotional intimacy was even more important than love," she says.
Herbenick studied thousands of couples and found emotional intimacy to be one of the strongest predictors of sexual pleasure and orgasm. "In some cases, emotional intimacy was even more important than love," she says.
DO IT
Deepen the emotional charge in the bedroom by slowly appreciating her body and genuinely voicing that appreciation. Linger over typically neglected areas, such as her earlobes, Gunsaullus says, or the back of her neck. Both regions scored high in a 2013 study of erogenous zones by U.K. and South African researchers. Other overlooked hot spots? Her lower back and inner thighs.
Deepen the emotional charge in the bedroom by slowly appreciating her body and genuinely voicing that appreciation. Linger over typically neglected areas, such as her earlobes, Gunsaullus says, or the back of her neck. Both regions scored high in a 2013 study of erogenous zones by U.K. and South African researchers. Other overlooked hot spots? Her lower back and inner thighs.
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"We ended up in missionary, and even that felt exciting."
My boyfriend was an EMT, and one night he invited me to come by the firehouse. We had the place to ourselves. He gave me a tour and we ended up in the garage. We played dress-up, trying on the firefighter uniforms, and then we climbed onto the trucks. I'd never been in an ambulance before, so he opened it up and ushered me inside. The firefighter gear was really heavy, so we started taking it off—and didn't stop. It was freezing, which made us more eager to get close. We ended up having sex on the floor of the ambulance. He sat on this low ledge inside, and I sat facing him on his lap. It was a familiar position, but it felt new because the location was so random and wild. We ended up in missionary, and even that felt exciting because we were on the floor of a rescue vehicle—somewhere I'd never been before, and somewhere I didn't belong.
—ASHLEY, 24
—ASHLEY, 24
WHY IT WORKED
Women are just as aroused as men when they're introduced to unfamiliar titillations, researchers from the University of Lethbridge in Canada found.
Women are just as aroused as men when they're introduced to unfamiliar titillations, researchers from the University of Lethbridge in Canada found.
DO IT
This won't require breaking into a firehouse. Pretty much any setting outside the norm, Hokemeyer says, will achieve the desired effect because it'll add a new and exciting page to your sexual play-book—whether you decide to go for it on the kitchen floor, or in the laundry room while the washer is on the spin cycle.
This won't require breaking into a firehouse. Pretty much any setting outside the norm, Hokemeyer says, will achieve the desired effect because it'll add a new and exciting page to your sexual play-book—whether you decide to go for it on the kitchen floor, or in the laundry room while the washer is on the spin cycle.
"He pulled my underwear off, but the dress stayed on."
After a fancy holiday party one night, my date and I headed back to his place. I was wearing this red satin gown with a plunging neckline and black stiletto heels. He wore a tuxedo. We'd spent the night dancing, and it all felt very glamorous, like we were some movie star couple. It was romantic, even a little dreamlike. When I asked him to help me unzip my dress, he flipped me around to face him and started kissing me—all the way down my neck and into the plunge of my neckline. Then he pulled down one of the dress straps and started kissing my breasts. I looked down at my gown, at his tuxedo, and at his mouth around my nipple. It felt so naughty—our sophisticated clothing combined with our animal sexuality. It felt even better than if I'd been standing there naked. Then he started kissing his way down my dress, all the way to my feet, still in those stilettos, and worked his way back up—under my dress. Eventually he pulled my underwear off, but the dress stayed on. It was the best orgasm I've ever had.
—LAURA, 30
—LAURA, 30
WHY IT WORKED
Any break from the expected puts our senses on high alert, from the visual (the contrast between red satin and his mouth) to the touch of his lips on her legs, Hokemeyer says. "For centuries, men have used the element of surprise in battle and sport to their advantage—two endeavors that on a primal level have similar qualities to sexual relations between women and men," he adds. "In all three there's an element of heightened awareness and sensation. And the accompanying rush of adrenaline can be quite seductive, titillating, and physically gratifying."
Any break from the expected puts our senses on high alert, from the visual (the contrast between red satin and his mouth) to the touch of his lips on her legs, Hokemeyer says. "For centuries, men have used the element of surprise in battle and sport to their advantage—two endeavors that on a primal level have similar qualities to sexual relations between women and men," he adds. "In all three there's an element of heightened awareness and sensation. And the accompanying rush of adrenaline can be quite seductive, titillating, and physically gratifying."
DO IT
Propose something radically different: In a survey of Women's Healthreaders, 65 percent said they might wear a mask in the bedroom, and 75 percent were at least somewhat interested in using a sex swing.
Propose something radically different: In a survey of Women's Healthreaders, 65 percent said they might wear a mask in the bedroom, and 75 percent were at least somewhat interested in using a sex swing.
Source: http://www.menshealth.com/
